Peoria, Arizona
Wednesday, February 13, 1991
Tomorrow I will enter the United States Navy. Even thinking that causes a mix of excitement and trepidation I’ve never before experienced. What am I doing? I can’t lie, sitting here, trying to write this diary, I feel a little bit like I’m going to piss my pants. I am scared; I am literally scared enough to piss myself. Nice, huh?
I am trying to hide my fears from my family and friends. I don’t think anyone knows that I cried nearly all day yesterday due to fear. If someone might have seen that I was watery-eyed, I think I did a good job of chalking it up to the fact that I will miss everyone.
Oh, God, am I really doing this? I have gone to the bathroom so many times today, because I really am afraid. I know it could happen. I will think the wrong thought and the fear will overwhelm me and I will piss my pants. There it is again, that feeling, ugh! Piss. My. Pants. I have to stop thinking about it.
This morning I laid in bed, knowing I will not get that luxury again for a long while, and I have been trying to convince myself that I am brave. I am right on the edge, I could still cry, but I’ve decided that I won’t. Today won’t be about that. I learned a long time ago that tears don’t serve me well anyway, because they change nothing. It is just difficult to step out into the great unknown. I’m leaving my parent’s house, my family, my city, my state – basically everything I’ve ever known and loved.
I have no idea what kind of life I will find for myself out in the great, wide world. I keep telling myself that this is what I want. This is what I’ve wanted for a long time. The truth is, I am a nineteen-year-old girl, who graduated High School nine months ago. I have no earthly clue what the hell I want to do with my life. I just know I don’t want to live in my parent’s house forever, or even for another minute longer. I don’t want a dead-end job cleaning up after people for the rest of my life. I don’t want to work myself to exhaustion to pay my way through community college while trying to afford my own place to live either. Also, it helps that my father told me I had to leave, I won’t even bother quoting him on that one because I can’t think of a single quote that sounds remotely nice or reasonable. Let’s just say I don’t feel wanted, the feeling is mutual, and leave that subject for later.
Even with all of that on my mind and in my heart, I’m not sure that I can do this. I mean, I know I can do it, I’m just so frightened of the unknown. Yep, I still want to piss my pants, or maybe hide under my bed. There is a lot of room under my daybed. It’s white with metal curly cues, very old fashioned looking but taller than the average twin bed. I could honestly crawl under the frilly bed skirt and back myself into the corner and curl up and hide. But that would just be embarrassing if I was found, that is if anyone bothered to look for me today.
Today is my day, my last day of my childhood. Honestly, I know that nothing will ever be the same again after today. This is my chance. My opportunity to change my life, to learn new things, to meet new people, to see the world. My Friends all say I’m crazy, “There is a WAR going on!” They exclaim as if I don’t understand that. I see it. I’ve watched it on T.V. just like everyone else. They are calling it Desert Storm.
My friends are all either in awe or terror of war. We have all been taught about Vietnam, but we don’t remember it, not really. We innocent children of the 1980’s who have known hostage crisis, and fear of nuclear war, but have never seen the United States in a real war, that we can remember. It’s a real bubble-buster, it popped right through that cocoon of safety we were all nestled in as children. Honestly, I don’t care if there is a war now, it doesn’t change my plans in the slightest. I can’t stay here. I have nowhere to go but forward.
I will join the world. I will learn new things. I will become a new person, the real me, the adult me. The hardest part was cutting off all of my long hair, if I’m being honest. I look like a boy with short hair. I hate that. Well there’s also that little matter of facing the fear. The Piss Myself fear. Another successful trip to the bathroom later, and all that is left is leaving.
© T. L. Gabbert